Playlist meme

January 29, 2007

I saw this over on Katt’s . I got so involved in it that I have completely relaxed after the emotional weekend I had and feel ready to tackle the rest of my unpacking I have to do.

Try it, you might just need it.

Opening credits – Let’s go – Shania Twain

Waking up – You are not alone – Modern Talking

First day at school If you had my love – Project W

Falling in love- All through the night – Cindy Lauper

Fight song – I’m alive – Celine Dion

Breaking up – Misfit – Amy Studt

Prom/Matric Farewell – Bad Moon Rising – CCR

Life’s Okay – Loverboy – Billy Ocean

Mental Breakdown – Lazy – David Byrne

Driving- Beautiful – Christina Aguilera

Flashback- Unwanted – Avril Lavigne

Getting back together – Things I’ll never say – Avril Lavigne

Wedding – Ice Ice Baby – Vanilla Ice

Birth of a child – Pretty Woman – Roy Orbison

Death Scene – Ohh Ahh (just a little bit) – Gina G

Funeral Song – Love of the common people – Paul Young

End Credits – I’m winning – Santana

Some interesting answers here!!!!


Tagged by Katt

November 1, 2006

I was tagged by Katt to reveal 8 random things about myself.  I did a similar tag to this just over a year ago and you will find it under my tags category under the title to tag or not to tag.  If you read that you will know 21 random things about me.  I am going to take a time out now to find 8 more things that you might find interesting. 

 I have 1 brother and 1 sister and 3 step sisters.

My brother is 1 year older that me and my sister 4 years younger.  My stepsisters are much younger because my father married a wonderful lady 2 years ago who is only 10 years older than me.  No sarcasm, she is a fantastic spiritual person and loves my father to death.

My father is my hero.

I don’t know why I haven’t blogged about him much yet.  He is my favourite person in the whole wide world and I simply love him to death.

My sister is pregnant!!

My sister has a set of twins, aged 8.  A boy and a girl!  She is expecting another set of twins due very soon and they are also a boy and a girl. Unbelievable!!?? Believe it.

I have had two miscarriages.

Sad but true. My first pregnancy ended itself the day after I found out that I was pregnant.  I hadn’t told anyone and my husband didn’t know.  He still doesn’t know.  Six months after that I fell pregnant again with my son.  Two years later, I fell pregnant again and started experiencing problems 4 months into the pregnancy.  I was bleeding profusely and after several scans it was established that I was carrying twins, but the one was not developing and my body was aborting it. A month later, I was back in hospital experiencing the same pain and bleeding.  I was devastated, but it wasn’t the baby.  She was fine, but I had to have an appendectomy. Was very scary!!

I sometimes suffer from verbal diarrhea.

A friend recently called me “a bit of a talker”.  We had been emailing each other for a while and she said she enjoyed getting mails from me because I am “a bit of a talker”.  No short and sweets from me!! Too late, don’t try and hide your email addresses!!!!

I don’t have any living grandparents.

It is so sad.  I wish I still had a granny that I could just go and sit and talk to.  My one gran died when I was 16 and I didn’t know her husband because he died when I was 4.  My other gran passed away 6 years ago and her husband passed away when I was 14 – can’t remember much about him.  They were divorced and we didn’t see him often.

My favourite eat out is Ocean Basket

I don’t know what that says about me, but Mr B and myself love to go there on our own, order a couple of bottles of wine and enjoy some excellent sea food. 

I am not obese any more!!!

When I joined the gym, my BMI put me in the obese category, but I am proud to announce that I am a bit below that now!!!

Ok, that is done.  Seeing that you now know 21 plus 8 things about me, you owe me 13 things about you Katt!!!!

Photo tag

July 31, 2006

Well, I think this guy is amazing. I saw this tag on my Buddy’s and Celeste’s sites yesterday and wandered on over to the source and found it to be Chuck.

The aim is to find a picture of a point in your life when you were “bright eyed and clueless” as to what the future will hold for you. I have seen some of the reactions to the tag like Frog with a blog and it inspired me to dig into my pics as well. This is a scan of a picture taken while I was in High School. I might add that it is a good 21 years ago and boy was I bright eyed and clueless back then. Can’t say I am better off now, but at least I am still bright eyed!!!!

Have a laugh at my expense, it is ok, I have left myself open for it….

You might want to pay Chuck a visit to see what else he published of me.

Ok, well there you have it a before and after pic of myself within a couple of days. So much for staying somewhat anonymous.

Thank you Chitty

June 23, 2006

I saw this on Chitty’s blog who saw it on Blackcrag’s blog. Chitty tagged me with the letter “G”

The rules are simple: Write 10 words beginning with that letter in your journal, including an explanation what the word means to you and why, and then pass out letters to those who want to play along.

Now, I don’t want to be a spoil sport and this has actually caused some serious thinking on my part and that doesn’t happen too often, so here goes.

George –for George Clooney – has to be #1 – beauty, style, charisma, charm & Sexy. He makes me dream the most beautiful dreams and let me leave it at that.

Gold – makes me feel all warm when I see this word or colour. Nothing says I love you as much as a beautiful piece of gold jewellery. Gold is also one of the major mining industries in South Africa and we produce 20% of the worlds gold. One of our provinces, Gauteng, was named after all the gold mines situated in it. This also reminds me of the Olympic Games and the search for Olympic Gold. I truly admire all participants in the Olympic Games. Gold is reserved for first place. Gold is for those who are truly the best at what they do.

Ground – A place I have my feet firmly placed on. Ground can mean so many things for so many different reasons. You have ground as in soil – most amazing smell after rains. You have ground as in where your home is situated. A place where you normally feel safe and secure. You have ground as in minced beef or spices. Another fantastic smell is ground peppercorns. Seems to me that the word ground affects my sense of smell mostly.

Gorilla – They are the most stunning animals and I can fully understand why Dian Fossey dedicated her life to them. The Dian Fossey Gorilla Fund International is dedicated to the conservation and protection of the endangered mountain gorilla. They are so strong, yet they can look so sensitive and sincere if you look into their eyes. Gorillas in the Mist happens to be one of my favourite movies.

Garfield – The cutest cat you will find. Who hasn’t seen the Garfield cartoons and who at one stage didn’t buy the love of their life(albeit at age 12) a Garfield stuffed toy as token of your love and devotion. Ok, I am sure it didn’t only happen to me. Garfield makes me laugh and will always be special in my heart. In 1978 the Garfield comic strips by Jim Davies debuts in 41 US newspapers on the same day that the first test tube baby was born. By 1983 Garfield appears in 1400 papers in 22 countries and was translated into 7 languages. Want to have some fun with Garfield then visit here.

Gandhi – The Gandhian notion of “passive resistance” or satyagraha, the strategy that won independence for India in 1948, had earlier roots in South Africa. Mahatma Gandhi lived in South Africa for 21 years from 1893. He arrived as the lawyer for an Indian trading company, but, appalled by the racism and discrimination he encountered, he founded an Indian political movement, the Natal Indian Congress. He conceived his ideas of “passive resistance” during protests in 1906 when he made a speech warning that “violence begets violence” and that love and truth must eventually prevail. Several movies has been produced portraying the life of Gandhi.

Gogga – Afrikaans word for creepy crawlies – pronounced Go-ga. Strangely enough it is also a very popular term of endearment. I for one call my little ones “My gogga” when I speak to them. They are definitely not little spiders or insects in my eyes, yet the word Gogga is often associated with affection. Little children will be terrified because then to them, Gogga is the Boogie Man. As they grow older, they will realize that it is just a general term for all little creepy crawlies and they will start catching them and bringing them to show you. A couple of years later, they will rather die than touch any of them. It is amazing how such a little word, can have so many connotations to it. I once acted in a school play and my character(lead mind you) was a girl named Gogga. She was a tomboy, I had to do tricks on a bicycle on stage. It was a very plain, very ordinary story written by a student but it was a laugh a minute. I still have the script in my memories box.

Green – As in the colour of our lawn, the colour of the trees and shrubs outside my office window, the colour of my eyes and I have actually never considered green a favourite colour until now. I realized that green brings peace to me. It makes me feel relaxed and tranquil. I have also realized that I have never used green as a decorative colour in my home. I wonder why that is. If it makes me feel all the aforementioned feelings, why don’t I use it at home? Will have to ponder that for a while.

Grey’s Anatomy – We are currently seeing the first season of this show and I am hooked on it. Yes, it is just another hospital soap but yet it has something different about it. I think it has a lot to do with two of the actors. I love Patrick Dempsey and Ellen Pompeo. Every episode brings new medical cases and a mystery to solve. It sort of reminds me of House.

Gregory House – Sorry Chitty, I have to use this one too. If you visit here you will see what his critics wrote about him and Chitty is 100% correct in describing him. The New York Times reckons he is “As addictive as Vicodin”. So, when are we getting to see the next show???? Why do I think of him? Because he stands by what he believes in. He doesn’t back down and he is simply who he is. He is not trying to change to fit in with others, but he is himself and that is how I am too. I am who I am and that is Gregory House, no no just kidding. He is just inspiring and yes, he is just another character in another movie, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t be like him. I will of course just strip away the rudeness, ego and cranckiness or would I?
Ok, I have many more that I am thinking about ie g-strings, gay, gasoline, gastro, golf, games but if I don’t stop now, I will go on forever. So, if you want to try your hand at this and have nothing better to blog about, leave a comment indicating your wish and I will give you a letter. Maybe I must just through the letter Y back at Chitty just because I can.

For some or other reason, I can’t add any pictures to this, but will do it at a later stage. For now, this will have to do.

Interview Questions for Terri

April 13, 2006

As mentioned in my previous post, I asked Reluctantnomad to interview me and he did so beautifully. As the rules of the competition states, I left an invitation for someone to ask me to interview them in the same fashion. Terri asked me to interview her. Let’s see if she remains my friend after all this is done…

Terri is a 30 something female living in Ireland with her husband, Dave and his 15 year old daughter, Cinderella(as she is lovingly called by her wicket stepmother). She is originally from South Africa and they have been living in Ireland for the last couple of years. Cinderella only recently joined them. She calls herself a Saffa in a strange country. She has no children of her own and seems to be a die hard when it comes to her resolution not to have children.

Terri comes across as a very serious workaholic on her blog. There is however a side to her that she reveals every now and then. That is her playful side that I have had the pleasure of getting to know during our biking days. She loves competing. She loves to dance and have fun. She has a great sense of humour. She is at her best next to a campfire with some OB’s and good company. She is definitely someone who you can confide in. She is an honest, sincere, no nonsense type of gal. She loves to travel and has seen places most people one dream of visiting. I recall a recent ski holiday and an injury sustained. I must not forget to mention that Terri loves Frangipani’s and the first person who can create a computerized scratch and smell technology, will be her hero forever!!!. Actually, there is a single word that describes her to the tee. FEISTY!

Buckle your seatbelt, put on your helmet, have another chocolate and fill your coffee mug because here goes!!!

Question 1: You have two creative abilities that comes across very strongly in your blog. You love to write and you love to take pictures. Have you considered or will you consider publishing your creative results? I know that you have dedicated a blogspot to your Terristories and have even won a prize in a competition for short stories, but would you take the plunge and sit and create a book and try to get it published, sold and actually make some good money out of it?

Question 2: It is obvious from your blog that you are very close to your mother and sisters. Your younger sister is also in Ireland, but your Mom and older sister is still in South Africa if I read correctly. If Dave had to tell you today that you are coming back to South Africa for good, what would your reaction be? You recently wrote about a position that you have acquired at work and that everything there is falling into place after all the time spent studying. Would it be an easy decision to make? Or would you prefer to stay there and fulfill another big favorite and that is to travel. There are still places on your list of places to see and would you like to first accomplish that?

Question 3: This one is very similar to a question that Allan asked me. Do you get sentimental and miss days gone by? I am particularly asking about the rallies. Just getting to the rally site was a rush of its own. Dave always had superfast bikes and I know that you loved speed. Getting there, pitching tents, drinking lots of whatever flows, sampling some “giggle-twak” and being with friends, was just so special. I know the weather isn’t always too good in Ireland, but do they have rallies there? Enough OB’s can sort out any foul weather, right?

Question 4: Has the fact that Cinderella(on the left) is living with you now, impacted on your life in a huge way? I must admit that she sounds like an angel. She seems to have slotted in so easily. What with cooking, baking and even watching sport with her dad? I know what it is like to have teenagers in the house, but I am used to it. I have 4 children and raised them from babies. You and Dave have been together since his children were little, but having spent a couple of years on your own, must have been cause for an adjustment. Ok, this isn’t fair because this is now becoming a multipart question, but seeing that I am considering moving to a different country, how easily did she adapt to school and teenagers there? People have a tendency to consider South Africa a bit behind in what is actually happening in the world.

Question 5: You wrote a beautiful tribute to your father on the anniversary of his death. I will never forget it because I think that is the best piece I have read on any blog ever. You must be wondering where this is going? I know that you enjoy a lot of things considered male sports, ie shooting, pool, biking etc. Your father passed away when you were still very small. Where does your love for that come from? You don’t talk about where you grew up or went to school etc on your blog and I am just curious to know how you got involved with it. You mentioned your shooting abilities in posts and I know that you can play pool better than most guys I know.

I have suddenly got hundreds more questions and I just read your last comment you left on my blog and I have decided to stop here and let you out of your misery. It was fun researching you and I hope I did you justice. You are a special person and there aren’t many like you around.

Interview Answers

April 11, 2006

A while ago I asked Reluctant Nomad to interview me like he was interviewed. He accepted and has posed some tough interview questions. He is quite accurate in his view of me as a person. He has caught on to what I have exposed of myself. A couple of mishits here and there, but that is only due to how I told a story and not his fault at all. You can wander on over to his site to see the questions he posed and here are my answers. Some of them were difficult to get into words, but let’s see how it goes.

Answer Question 1: I am terribly sentimental. I cry if I see pictures of my friends that have left the country. I cried when I had the mishap with my new camera and lost the pictures I took for Terri in Ireland. My soulmate is my friend Gillian who has moved to New Zealand. I worked with her ex husband and it was them who introduced me to biking. I also met my third husband through them. Gillian and I shared everything. I think I somehow portrayed a picture of a bad biker chick who can drink with the boys and not be bothered. Instead I am the one who would be out on the dancefloor dancing up a storm and drinking just enough to keep myself mellow. I hate hangovers and I hate not being in control of myself. I however love to have fun. My then husband was a heavy drinker and I had to look after him and make sure he didn’t make a complete fool of himself. I wasn’t always successful at that and I sometimes think that I had a bigger laugh at him than most people. All in all, this was a happy period in my life and I think that is why I often refer back to it. My life up until that point wasn’t very exciting.

Answer Question 2 – Yes, my first husband is the one that took me to my matric dance, but no, he isn’t the one who hurt me. I in fact hurt him. We were married when I was 21 and soon after had 2 children, but when I was 27, life just didn’t make sense anymore. I went into a severe depression and left my him. I think I blamed him for the state I was in. I met him when I was 16. We never went out. It is not that I wasn’t allowed. He wasn’t interested in pubs and clubs and so forth. I was madly in love and was happy to sit at home and watch videos or have a braai with his friends. I lost contact with all my schoolfriends. My whole life focussed on keeping him happy. I started working soon after leaving school and before I knew it, I was in a rut. My life consisted of work, home, work, home and church. We never played. Money was always an issue in our relationship. I had to please explain what I did with my salary. Nothing was mine. Not even the children. It was always his car, his house, his children, his, his, his. He was a very egotistical and selfish man. He didn’t want to have children and was upset with me when I fell pregnant. He was/still is a pigeon fancier and that was Number One in his life. I just got tired of it. I made a decision and left. The kids stayed with me and thanks to them, I didn’t commit suicide even though I was close to it on several occasions. I saw a doctor, got medication and started clawing back. I met a wonderful(??) man. We dated a while, got married and when I realized what a mistake I made, it was too late. Now followed a very dark period. It took 3 ½ years out of my life. If it wasn’t for a colleague, I would probably still be stuck in that situation out of fear for husband number 2. I would prefer not to talk about it if you will forgive me. Maybe at a later stage, I will tell all. The one who hurt me, was the one that I trusted completely and that was husband number 3. From the day that we met, we were close. We just understood each other so well. Yes, he did drink too much, but when drunk he became a teddy bear. We had so many laughs together and my kids loved him. He helped me become myself again. He also helped me to get my children to visit me again and stay over for weekends and holidays. He had two children whom I adored and his son lived with us. He asked me to marry him 23 times and on the 24th occasion I said yes. Because of what happened before, I was terrified and he knew that. We got married in July and at the end of November that same year, he told me that he was seeing someone else and wanted to be with her. I was devastated. I begged and pleaded with him not to do this to me and the children. I even told him to have his affair and get it out of his system. How desperate does that sound? Things seemed to get better and we even bought a house together and just before we were about to move into the house, I realized that he was still seeing her. Next think I know, I got chucked out of our home and had to collect my clothes from the back of a bakkie parked in the driveway. He had the affair and still chucked me out of the house. We were divorced just after our first wedding anniversary. Re-reading this answer, I realized that I didn’t completely answer your question.I dont speak about the other two because husband #2 was the biggest mistake of my life and husband #3 broke my trust. Even though we are on speaking terms with each other, I still haven’t forgiven him for what he did. Husband #1 and I are on very good terms and we often talk and mail each other. He has realized that me leaving him was the biggest favor anyone has ever done for him. He has turned himself around and is a much better person now.

Answer Question 3: I met Bazil while all this commotion was happening with Husband #3. He was a shoulder to cry on, if I can put it that way. He allowed me to express my emotions. He saw me at my worst and he didn’t take advantage of that. He built my confidence up again and made me feel sexy again. I lost almost 20 kg’s while all this was happening. I was in fact looking better than I did it many years. I believe that God will forgive me for living in sin. If anybody should understand, it is Him. The idea of ‘living in sin’ would have bothered me when I was 18, but not anymore. I believe that if your heart and faith is in the right place, you are doing ok. Both Bazil and myself feel the same way about marriage. He was married for a very long time and in that time had several affairs and even a child with another woman. His ex-wife is part of our lives and even though it was difficult at first, I have accepted that. He is very involved with his children and therefore has daily contact with their mother. It is not that I have trust issues, boy because I should have. I believe that our relationship is stronger than any marriage can be. We have both been hurt before and we respect each other’s feelings on the subject. Yes, we have two beautiful children together and I am very happy with him. We have more parties than I did in my biking days, but I now have a responsibility towards especially my two babies. They come first and that is just perfect with me.

Answer Question 4 – ‘Cocaine Cowboy’ is long gone. I threw him out. Whenever he comes to our house, the two of us ends up in an argument. He is the weakest person I have ever met. His own mother has disowned him. He still has an on/off relationship with the mother of his child. Even though I feel dreadfully sorry for that little boy, I have realized that I just can’t save everyone. The boy has a granny who is looking after him now and even though the mother also lives there, he is under the care of his granny and that is good for him. I am not one to be messed with. Don’t abuse my kindness and don’t break my trust. That is what he did. He stole from us and I will never forgive him for buying drugs while Bazil’s 15 year old son was with him in the car. As for taking him in in the first place, that wasn’t my decision. Bazil has a kinder and more giving heart than me. We didn’t even take him in. He just moved in on his own. But he is gone now and I am happy for that.

My teenage children live with their father in Pretoria. He was transferred there just over 3 years ago and we decided that it would be better for the children’s education and sport activities, to go to school in Gauteng. They have more opportunities there and are both keen at sports. My son plays cricket and my daughter swims on provincial level. She does very well academically and is in a very good school. She stayed with me for almost a year, but decided to go back to her dad because she wasn’t happy in school and missed swimming. She adjusted well to being back there and I see them school holidays. Not easy, but life isn’t always easy and it is a price I have to pay for decisions I made earlier in my life.

Answer to Question 5 – I won’t stop them. I believe that they know the dangers involved because that has been told to them many times. How can I tell them that they aren’t allowed to ride a bike if I do it myself? I believe that they will all become bikers and I have to trust that I have taught them enough about the dangers involved. My son is getting a bike next year and he is very excited about it.

Answer Question 6: With the two little ones to contend with, we don’t get time to go to the movies, but we often get DVD’s. If a movie hasn’t caught my attention in the first 10 minutes, I will turn it off. I don’t particularly enjoy a lot of violence and blood. If it has sex in, I won’t mind as long as it forms part of the storyline. I would totally walk out of a cinema if I didn’t like the movie. I always try to find out something about a movie before I watch it anyway.

For those of you who may want to be interviewed in this fashion, here are the Official Interview Games Rules:

If you want to participate, leave a comment below saying, “interview me”.

I will respond by asking you five questions – each person’s will be different.

You will update your journal/blog with the answers to the questions.

You will include this explanation and an offer to interview others in the same post.

When others comment asking to be interviewed, you will ask them five questions.


February 3, 2006

I have seen this meme going around with several slight variations and due to a lack of something useful to contribute today, I thought I would also answer this one.

4 jobs you have had:

1. Sales lady in shoe shop – It was a weekend and school holiday job
2. Finance clerk at local Chamber of Industries
3. PA to Marketing Manager at above mentioned company
4. Accountant at Textile company

4 movies you could watch over and over:
1. Braveheart
2. Ghost
3. There’s something about Mary
4. Dirty Dancing

4 places you have lived:

1. Port Elizabeth
have never wanted to live/move anywhere else4

TV shows you like to watch:

1. The Closer
2. All the CSI’s
3. Egoli – local soapy
4. House

4 favourite books:

Don’t get much reading done lately. When I do, I read John Grisham or Danielle Steel – can’t pick a favourite

4 places you have been on vacation:
1. Cape Town
2. Johannesburg
3. Sun City
4. Durban

Have never left the country – one day I will be able to.

4 websites you visit daily:

1. Terri
2. …seeking Serenity
3. Chitty
4. Reluctant Nomad
Plus loads of other blogs…

4 favorite foods:

Seeing that I am on a strict watch-what-I-eat-plan at the moment, I will name the foods that is most difficult to have to avoid for now:
1. Pasta – like I make it, with lots of cream , mushrooms, garlic, etc,etc
2. Potato crisps
3. Bread
4. My cider drink – Hunters Dry

4 places you would rather be right now:

1. New Zealand
2. Ireland – just to say hi to my pals
3. Mauritius – would love to go there with Bazil(Mr B) to scuba-dive
4. Switzerland – want to go skiing

4 Bloggers you tag:

Consider yourself tagged if you want to do this. Maybe I will make an exception and tag a new blogger friend Celeste over at whatalotoffun

and for something funny to start off the weekend

It was a small town and the patrolman was making his evening rounds. As he was checking a used car lot, he came upon two little old ladies sitting in a used car. He stopped and asked them why they were sitting there in the car. Were they trying to steal it?
“Heavens no, we bought it.”
“Then why don’t you drive it away.”
“We can’t drive.”
“Then why did you buy it?”
“We were told that if we bought a second hand car here we’d get screwed –

so we’re just waiting.