Thank you for the music

July 9, 2007

As I mentioned in my previous post, Terri and her hubby have arrived in town and I met up with them last Tuesday evening.  What a wonderful time we had???!!!  Apart from seeing them again, I also happened to see other friends that I haven’t seen in years.  After all the normal hugs and kisses and tearful reunions, we drank up enough courage to hit the stage and sing karaoke.  Now, I am not a singer, but I am also up for a challenge.  It took us close to an hour to decide what we want to sing.  It was decided on Thank you for the music because we all felt it would be pretty safe.  Did we do well???  Oooooohhh I don’t know, but we most definitely had lots of fun.  I am even going to post some pictures of our effort and you be the judge.

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Just before I finish, here is a pic of two very very happy friends…..


So, Terri and Dave, thank you for the music on Tuesday evening.  We will have to do this again for sure…. but this time the guys must also sing!!!

How about it Katt??? Would you like to join us in our next appearance!! We can call ourselves Terriland Kattbox Oodlers!!!!


Why still stay in SA????

March 15, 2007

My very dear friend Terri posted a question on her blog and I tried to leave a comment, but wasn’t able to.  It made me think very deep and very hard.  I quote her question..

“So here’s a question for all you South Africans still living there:

What’s it like to live there now? ”

In my honest humble opinion, it is still great!!!!  Yes, nunnies!!!  We still have sunny skies, braaivleis, rugby, cricket, parties with friends, nice long rides on the motorbike, big homes with big gardens, beautiful green trees in our suburbs.  We also still have the sounds of children playing soccer in the streets or the sounds of the two ancient half deaf neighbours’ conversations.  I quote one from last night..

Man:  “Madge!!!”

no response

Man:  “MADGE!!!”

no response

Man:  “M-A-D-G-E-!!!”

Wife: “Yes, dear”

Man: “Where did you put my paper!!”

Wife: “What paper??”

Man: “My fucking newspaper.  What other paper can I be talking about you stupid woman!”

Wife: “Check the bathroom you idiot!!”

Now this couple must be close on 90 and have most probably been married for 70 years.  They don’t walk anymore.  They simply just scuffle.  Believe it or not.  This old man still has a job that he goes to every day!!

What else do we have that is great?  Our beaches for one.  We have so many filmstars and famous people from all over the world owning beach houses here.  I doubt if there are any left for us South Africans. 

Despite all the reports of violence, SA is still one of the most desired places in the world as a holiday destination.  We have beautiful game farms and national parks.  Very popular tourist destinations.  Come see how the lions rule the jungle.  No, we don’t often get to see them roaming our streets as some people still believe.  We do get to see the occasional monkey or snakes or some other form of reptile. Simply take a drive from one city to another and you will encounter buck and rabbits or some other form of wildlife just by looking out the window.  We love to take a ride at night down the marine drive(coastal route around our city).  You get to see so many little eyes staring back at you. 

So who cares if we have to drive with our windows shut and doors locked, if we still get to see those little eyes? The worst problem apart from house breaking in our city is smash and grab incidents.  They(the bad people) smash your front window or passenger door window and grabs your handbag or cellphone or whatever is within easy reach.  The solution is simple.  Don’t leave anything there for them to grab.  It is simple common sense!!! People need to be aware of where they are at all times and simply pay attention.  We don’t have to live in fear. Be prepared and be alert.  Isn’t that someone’s motto???

I know I have considered leaving South Africa.  After putting a lot of thought into it, I realized that it is merely because I miss my friend so much that I am willing to shake the African dust off my feet.  I know I won’t be able to make a permanent move.  So what if our taxes are high?  So what if petrol is soooo expensive? So what if owning you own home is becoming a luxury? So what if telecommunication here is probably the most expensive in the whole world? 

I’ll tell you that we definitely still have our braais with our friends.  We still drive to work every day.  We still talk and communicate over the phone or internet every day.  We all live somewhere that we call home.  The fact that you own or rent hardly ever comes up in conversation.  Life is carrying on as usual.

 The only thing that has changed is the fact that our country is short on qualified people to do the work required. A lot of our top level professionals have left the country.  A prime example is Mark Fish.  One of our soccer heroes.  He left our country because of violence.  You know what, he returned to our country because of exactly the same reason?

Violence doesn’t only happen here.  It happens everywhere. 

One problem that does worry me is drug addiction.  I am more afraid that one of my kids will choose that road than I am of one of them being affected by violence.  I am not going through life with blinkers on.  I also don’t harbour the attitude of “it won’t happen to me”.  I know all the risks.  Chances are higher of the first happening.  That is a serious situation.  A child was caught with dagga in his possesion at school last year.  The education board overturned the school’s decision to expel him saying that it is within his right to sell dagga at school.  What message is that sending to our children???  It is situations like this that makes me scared in our country.  Our supposed leaders make the strangest decisions and that is why we need the Saffas back. 

The other scary thing is that I am a white South African who went to school during the apartheid era.  If I now look at the text books used by my children, I realize how much has changed. The history I studied at school is not the history being studied by them.

I have sent this question posted by Terri to some of my friends and I will do a follow up post containing their answers. Let’s see what they come up with.

Maybe I am living in a dreamworld. Maybe I am still here because I want to believe that everything is going to work out. Maybe I am still here because I want my children to grow up in the beauty of our country. When I look at how the teenagers of today interact with each other I have hope for the future. When I see black, white and coloured children party together and socialize, I believe that there is hope for our future. They are all the same. They have the same dreams and ideals. They love our country. They aren’t talking about leaving South Africa and finding there wealth elsewhere. They want to make South Africa a force to be reckoned with. They want to play rugby and cricket for South Africa. They are talking about going into politics because the polititians of today “don’t have a clue”.

I believe that there is hope because the children have restored my hope.

My new world

January 25, 2007

It is official.  I shall be my own boss as from 1 February 2007.  I stopped listening to all the negative voices in my head and heard all the positive ones screaming to just go and do it!!!!

I have a substantial amount of work to start off with already and life as I know it now, will cease to be.  It will be good.  I know and believe it.

I know that my blog friends are never far away and you might not see me every day, but just remember that I am myself never far away.  Time is money and now, more than ever, that will be the new way of life for me.  Don’t you worry, I have allowed for me-time in this new hectic schedule and my me time will be spent with my on-line friends.

 So, here goes Buddess off to take over the world.  Wish me luck!


This week..

October 30, 2006

This week

I am going to read more

and talk less

I am going to laugh more

and cry less

I am going to love more

and hurt less

I am going to dance more

and eat less

I am going to be happy more

and complain less.

In remembrance

September 8, 2006

This will be a sad day in world history for many more years to come. I am not an American. I didn’t know anyone who lost a life on this sad day. The actions of a certain group of people on this day horrified me. I remember being in my office at work and one of my colleagues screaming that we must turn on our radio’s. We couldn’t believe what we were hearing. I was a member of a motorbike club and we used to meet Tuesday evenings at a local pub. I have never seen a more somber pub. People weren’t drinking. There was a stunned silence as we watched the broadcast as the towers collapsed. I cried when I saw the people trying to jump to get out of the burning building. I shot a prayer up thanking God that I was safe.

A very special person started a very special project and I feel that this is a small thing that I can do to help his cause. He started the 2996 Project. If you haven’t read about it by now, please visit 2996 Project . I did just that and here is my contribution. I am not a writer, but I feel I have a story to tell and I try to do it to the best of my ability.

James D Halvorson(Jim) was a husband and a father. He worked as Head of Global Infrastructure Group, Marsh & Mclennan Cos Inc. He worked there for 30 years. He was an insurance broker who traveled the world and worked on many large overseas construction projects. He visited Russia, Indonesia, Iran, Iraq, Pakistan and many other places according to

He grew up in Devils Lake, N.D. There he attended North Dakota State University and the University of Montana from where he graduated in 1967. He then moved to Long Island, New York. He must have met his wife during this time because they had been married for 31 years and they have a son named Doug. He was also an accomplished skier and runner. He completed the New York marathon in 1991. From the little snippets that I found on the net, I could clearly see that he was a well loved man. He was someone that others looked up to and yet he had a personality that endeared him to all he met.

When disaster struck, he was in his office situated on the 99th and 100th floor of the North Tower of the World Trade Centre. It is believed that that was were Flight 11 hit. He lost his life together with 295 of Marsh & Mclennan Cos Inc’s employees on that day. But not just that, he lost his life together with 2995 other people on that day. I shall always remember 911 and the aftermath thereof. I shall always remember the fear it has instilled in all our lives. I shall always remember this special person assigned to me through this project.

I shall always remember Jim.

If a member of Jim’s family ever gets to read this, I want to ask them to contact me as I would love to learn more about him. I would love to be able to tell a story about a man whom I believe has a beautiful story to tell!!!!

I know I am bending the rules, but I won’t have internet access tomorrow so forgive me for posting this a couple of hours early!!!

South African Blog Directory: oodlesofnoodlesoffun is the “Blog of the Week” (30 July 2006)

August 15, 2006

I am sure you have seen the South African Blog Directory site. If you are in South Africa and have a blog, you should send your name to Michael and he will visit your site and write a short expose on your site. He will send you a link that you can put on your blog. I think this is a brilliant idea and damn I should have thought about it myself. All credit to him.

This is the article he wrote about my blog and I was the second blog of the week. Read it here.

2996 Project

August 11, 2006

I paid Hannelie a visit this morning and noticed her post on the 2996 project started by D.Channeler Roe. The aim is to get 2996 bloggers to publish a post ON 9/11 remembering one of the victims of the 9/11 attacks.

I followed the link and found an interesting site and a lot of hype about people complaining about the reasons behind the project and such nonsense. You can read it for yourself and then draw your own conclusion whether you want to do it or not. I decided to do it. I don’t live in America. I don’t know anyone who died that day. I didn’t loose a loved one in any of the attacks, but I am human. I am thankful, like Hannelie that it didn’t happen in my town. I am thankful that despite all the violence in our own country, I have not been affected by it. I am thankful that I have a heart and I am thankful that I can now go and google for some information on the name that was assigned to me. I am hoping that I will be able to pay honest tribute to him and therefore I placed a thingy in my sidebar proving that I have joined the march. I couldn’t think of a more fitting way to remember those who lost their lives on that day, than exactly this!!

I was number 1607 to sign up so there are still lots of names available. So, I have started preparing my post for 9/11. Are you going to do it? Go for it and click here to sign up.